137 | Re-Connection for Couples w/ Justice Schanfarber

Reconnection for Couples

Gratitude Cafe Episode 137: Featuring Justice Schanfarber

Insights and practices for cultivating love, sex and intimacy (even in difficult times) with Justice Schanfarber.

Emotional empathy is often touted as a relationship panacea, but there’s another piece of the puzzle that is often overlooked. In this episode Justice Schanfarber makes a case for the value of emotional boundaries in relationships.

Join us as we explore –

• The dark side of empathy
• How boundaries can actually bring us closer in relationship
• The personal development drive in relationships
• Why good boundaries make for better intimacy
• The one type of boundary that must be understood for relationships to grow

Sue and I ended up covering the outline above, and so much more, including –

• The ideal of setting boundaries vs the reality of setting boundaries
• Behavioural boundaries vs emotional boundaries
• What it really means to “hold space” for your partner
• How we lose ourselves (and find ourselves) in relationship
• Predictable stages of relationships
• Co-dependency
• Triggers in relationships (fight or flight responses)
• Differentiating between your pain and your partner’s pain
• Tips for managing your own nervous system arousal
• Confronting the differences between you and your partner
• Using body awareness as a tool for maintaining boundaries